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| ("Happy 8 Day" this is actually a Brian Regan reference. our favorite comedian.) |
But we continue to choose love.
We continue to choose forgiveness
and JOY
and commitment.
Because
after all
isn't that what love is about??
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| ("Happy 8 Day" this is actually a Brian Regan reference. our favorite comedian.) |
"Down right hard and ugly? Seemingly hopeless?" I have felt that way in my marriage so many times in the past year, but I keep fighting. And praying. And hoping. And praying some more. Too often I think people (me included once upon a time) get the idea that love is easy and marriage is a cake walk. Then, when it isn't, they give up. I believe a marriage is worth fighting for. This gives me hope. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteExactly! I am 100% committed to our my and my vows, no matter what. Marriage is THE biggest testimony and example of LIVING the Gospel and loving like Jesus did! Giving up of ourselves, forgiveness, serving, and always always looking for the good in a person by choosing acceptance and thankfulness. I will NOT just be another statistic, another "failure" in today's society.
ReplyDeleteI had felt the same way as both of you ladies. I was going to be the ONE person in my family who had a successful marriage, and i truly feel i did everything i could to foster a healthy marriage. At the end of the day though, as much as one wants to keep working on things, you cant force a person to stay against their will. Wheb your spiuse says they are dobe and want a divorce, end of discussion, you have no choice. Going through divorce is a very shameful thing, and rocks your self-esteem and identity to the core. I just felt like I had to speak up, because i too had the same ideas as you do, but now that i amm in the midst of it, i can see how those ideas can sometimes be hurtful.
ReplyDeleteMindy, I know what you mean and my thoughts and prayers are with you - I believe God will get you through this hard time one way or another. I believe it because He did it for me. I was fighting and fighting for our marriage, but one day, my husband came home and said I'm done. I want a divorce. It was devastating. I believe that it is only by God's grace that I was able to hold myself together, to show love and forgiveness to the man I loved, the one who had hurt me so deeply at that point. It is alos by God's grace that my husband came back, told me he'd made a mistake, asked for forgiveness, and we are again working on things. I saw God working in both of us through those three very, very hard months of separation, and I thank God every day for that gift. I believe in His ability to restore relationships as long as both people are willing. I believe in His goodness. This situation has been so difficult and it is not over, but it has drawn my husband and I closer to God and closer to each other and that is a miracle with in itself!
ReplyDeleteWow, Kassandra, what a journey! God is indeed FAITHFUL!!
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