Currently reading: The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
I was all about the Let Them movement. Letting other people have their opinions and choices, not wasting my energy trying to force other people to match my expectations, not being weighed down trying to control things I can't control. In essence, being free of burden. And claiming POWER back by choosing peace instead, choosing to steady yourself and detach. It's invigorating! Exciting! New life! Joy!
Until.
I got to the second part: Let Me.
Releasing control is only step one. But THEN, I have to make a choice, do the hard thing, choose and maintain the boundaries, be humble, take responsibility. And that, that's where it gets ugly. That's where I draw the line in the sand. Go back the way I came. Abort mission.
The truth is, "The source of your power is not in managing other people; it's in your response... You're in control of what happens next and that life is more fun and fulfilling when you're not sitting alone in your superiority.
When you say Let Them, you make a conscious decision not to allow other people's behavior to bother you. When you say Let Me, you take responsibility for what YOU do next. What I love about Let Me is that it immediately shows you what you can control. And there's so much you can control: Your attitude... your behavior... your values, your needs, your desires, and what YOU want to do in response to what just happened. It's the opposite of judgement. Let Me is all about self-awareness, compassion, empowerment, and personal responsibility. The more I said Let Them, the more space I had to consider MY role in this situation, and what I wanted to do about it...take responsibility for what I want in life.
I cannot simultaneously choose others and myself. It cannot always be balanced. Too often, one thing is at the detriment of the other. And while Jesus calls us to "die to self", it does NOT mean accepting toxicity as the way of life.
So here I am, at the crux of the movement, wondering,
Am I strong enough to change my ways?
