Greetings and Happy New Year!! I haven't been on here a whole lot. I'm kind of processing a lot of things these days, and I don't know what to say or THAT it even needs said, especially here to the public! But this is one thing that has been heavy on my heart, and I'm still trying to figure out what to do with it.... Facebook.
The more I'm there, the more I read what people share, what people comment, the more I observe my own behaviors and feelings, it seems like such a huge trap for sin. I can only speak for myself and my experience, and these are the ways Facebook causes me to stumble...
It causes JEALOUSY, seeing what other friends are doing. Everything gets shared, ya know. Lunch dates, shopping trips, movies. And sometimes, even though it doesn't seem like there's any valid reason, I just feel a twinge of jealousy. A feeling of being left out, or coveting time out like that for myself.
One of the biggest struggles I think is PRIDE, and this is one I often see, and I'm guilty of it too. Boasting about accomplishments, in seek of praise and comments, seeking man's approval. When I post photos or even a status update I check back very very frequently, eager to see what comments I have. Wow, such sin, trying to build myself up like that. Even if it's unintentional, it totally happens.
And on the flip side are PITY PARTIES, people complaining about this and that just in search of comments and others to come alongside them. Yes, it's good to be real, to show the tough times too, but what is the real motive?
Not to mention the IDLENESS and unproductivity of simply BEING online all the time.
Being a regular Facebook user quickly and easily leads to restlessness and discontentment and I lose the gift of being fully present with those I am with. There's always a need to know the latest news, because it's constantly changing, people are always posting.
And then there's the hurt and insult caused by posts/comments, even of complete strangers. And the firey feeling of needing to defend yourself. It's awful.
And hurt and assumptions from posts that are vague, and humans can't help but jump to their own conclusions about what it must mean. I've probably been on both sides of that "game".
You see, it's such an ugly trap.
But at the same time it's good, and that's why this causes such turmoil within me.
It's a place where pictures are easily and privately shared with friends and family.
You can share encouraging Bible verses, articles, music, and videos.
You can share simple things that just make you laugh.
You can share kind thoughts and messages to those you care about.
It's a source of communication and news, including urgent prayer requests.
For many others Facebook is not such a battle. But for me it is. So for 2013 how do I make this work?
I took my "wall" down. In order to write to me, it has to be a private message. This is to protect my friends and readers from any misinterpretations and to help guard my relationships as something somewhat personal.
I now require authorization before I can be "tagged" in something for all the rest of my friends to see.
I cannot remove the option of photo comments, so that just is what it is.
I will use more caution in what I post by following these rules I'd found on Pinterest regarding children but it fully applies to Facebook:
And while I can't control what OTHERS say, I can better control what I SEE. So I'm working through my friends list. But that kinda takes forever, so I majorly cut down my list of "close friends" and can view the feeds of that instead of the feeds of EVERYONE! Simply cutting down will also cut down my online time altogether.
"Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ." Galatians 1:10
So here, my friends, is to a new year!!